#metoo

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It seems that with each new day, a new person is coming forward with allegations of sexual assault.  As with anything that another person does, people that know nothing about the situation will chime in.  I am no different.  I like to throw my two cents into the pile when I can.  I’ve been wanting to comment on this situation for a while, but I’ve been waiting to see what happened with the story first.

There is no surprise that a lot of these stories have been stemming from Hollywood.  There have been stories of this nature for years, but nobody ever took them seriously.  Corey Feldman was even laughed at when he brought it up a long time ago.  Just because the source isn’t an A-list celebrity, doesn’t mean it isn’t true.  In the land of make-believe and sexy actresses, is this really a surprise?  There have always been jokes about people sleeping their way into roles and jokes usually start with some truth.

As long as there are men in a position of power, there will be those types of men that will use that power to get their way with women.  Remember, not every man in this position will act this way but the 5% that do make the other 95% look bad.  You can’t really blame the men for doing it.  I mean, you can and you should, but can you say that if Kate Beckinsale was on a couch in your office you wouldn’t try something or at least hit on her?  You shouldn’t, know that.  Things should always be professional in a work environment.  If you want to hit on a girl, do it in a bar like a normal person.

One of the things that people like to argue about online is the length of time it has been since these incidents happened and the time that they are finally reported.  The big reason is that in the past, nobody would believe the girl or guy without proof.  If it was a guy doing the reporting then they were held to a double standard.  If I were to complain that I was sexually assaulted by Kate Beckinsale, I would have been laughed at 10 years ago.  Today, there would still be those that would laugh at me but there would also be those that took me seriously.  It is hard to blame these women for waiting so long to say anything.  Would you say anything if everybody was just going to ignore you and blackball you from the industry?

I’m not sure if we don’t trust these women because they are women and we think should be in the kitchen making a sandwich or because we don’t want to believe something like this would ever happen.  We should take something someone says at full value until there is evidence to prove otherwise.  Yes, there are those that will say something to get their name back into the headlines and get their 15 minutes.  Those bitches are just trying to cash in on the pain of the women that actually had to endure the acts.  There are also people like the lady that accused the late Patrick Swayze of sexually harassing her.  It is easy to blame someone that is dead and can’t defend themselves against the accusations.  She may be telling the truth, but we will never know.

All of this has created the #metoo movement.  This allowed women to go onto social media and tell about the times that they have experienced sexual assault and let others know that they are not alone.

The one thing that is certain is that we are at the end of 2017 and we still treat women like 4th class citizens.  After all these decades of trying to prove themselves as equals, we still don’t treat them as such.  Hopefully, one of these days, we will realize how much better things will be when we treat each other as equals and with respect.  Until then, if the guys would just keep it in their pants and stop slapping women’s asses like they are pieces of meat that would be great.

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Offended by Halloween

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Halloween season is upon us and that means it is time for bags of candy, scary decorations, and another reason for everyone to be offended.  It is getting to the point that we might as well not interact with other people because they will be offended at something we do or say.  If you are going to be offended by something, just wrap yourself up in bubble wrap and stay home.

Obviously, there are costumes that should not be worn.  Mostly because they are in bad taste, e.g. Hitler, KKK, or anything showing violence against a real person.  For that last one, I remember people dressing up as Chris Brown and Rihanna after he beat the shit out of her.  That is just in poor taste.

Just about anything else is fair game though.  I saw a costume for a guy having sex with a sheep.  It may be gross but it is also kind of funny.  Who is that going to offend?  Rednecks?  Sheep?

If you dress up as Dracula, is that offensive to pale people?  The costume in the photo above is called “Down for the Count”.  It is meant for college parties, I’m sure.  Is it offensive?  Not to me.  Will someone find it offensive?  Sure.

If you really want to find offense in something, you will.  I find porn offensive because nothing like that ever happened when I delivered pizzas in college.

If you get offended because somebody goes dressed as Harambe, you have other issues that need to be dealt with.

So if you haven’t already picked out your costume, then just have some common sense when you do.  Don’t dress as a victim from the Boston Marathon or from the more recent Vegas shooting.  If you do, then you deserve whatever comes your way.  Dress up as a sexy nurse or something stupid and have some fun.  Don’t let this generation of easily offended people ruin a fun holiday.

High Paid College Coaches

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In the wake of the firing or resigning of the football coach down in Florida, it was made known that he was owed 12 million dollars on his contract.  This brings to question, why are these people paid so much money?

Depending on the school, the head football and basketball coaches are the highest paid people in the school.  At the “big” school in my state, the head football coach is paid 4.1 million dollars.  The head basketball coach is almost half of that at 2.45 million dollars.  Meanwhile, the baseball coach make even less with $525,000.  I don’t know if any of these coaches have housing allowances or travel allowances that are not included in these salary figures.  How can you really justify paying these salaries to the coaches?

Yes, I went to college and the entire time I was there I only attended 1 football game.  Mainly because I was normally working, but also because I don’t believe in the way the schools treat the athletic programs.  These student-athletes are held to professional standards and yet, they don’t get to reap the benefits of the programs that they hope to make successful.  Millions of dollars are poured into these programs instead of just going to the school.

College football teams are given million dollar facilities, huge stadiums, and state of the art equipment.  Meanwhile, other organizations are holding car washes and bake sales so that they can buy new t-shirts.  Why not have a portion of ticket sales go to the school to be equally distributed among other organizations?

A lot of these coaches make more than the coaches in the NFL.  Granted, the money that comes from ticket sales have to pay the players, coaches, and other team expenses; but still why does that justify paying college coaches such large salaries?

Maybe I’m just jealous of their paycheck.  The only thing that I’m sure of is that college sports should not have such a huge emphasis put on them.  The students should be there to get their education and play some sports if they want to.  Of course, what do I know?  I’m just an idiot that was never good enough to play sports at a junior high level much less a college level.

#takeaknee

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I guess it is time for me to weigh in on the whole #takeaknee thing.  I mean, everyone else is.

When this whole thing started last year with Kaepernick, I was mostly against it.  After some thought, it was because I think Kaepernick is douchebag.  Now that this has spread more widely, I’ve been forced to look at it from all sides.

A big majority of people think that these players are protesting the flag and disrespecting the country that allows them to be paid millions of dollars to play a game.  At first, I believed the same thing.  After some thought, I don’t believe this to be true.

These players are using the stage that they are on to show protest against a country that still allows for the mistreatment of minorities.  A country that allows for the senseless violence against other races.  They have a point.  It is 2017 and we are still discussing racism.  Slavery is over and we are all allowed to drink from the same water fountain, yet we still can’t treat each other like human beings.

Why is that?

We are fine with a black man leading a football team, but we don’t want one moving into our neighborhood.

How are we more open to a man becoming a woman than we are with a black man doing anything?  Of course there are exceptions to this.  There are those that should be locked up but that is true of all races.  There are plenty of white people that I don’t want in my neighborhood.

Will taking a knee solve the problem?  Probably not, but it is bringing attention to the problem.  Once attention is brought to a problem, more people will start to look at it.  As more people look at it, solutions arise.  Hopefully, these solutions will come about quickly and will work.

Of course, these solutions won’t come quickly.  Seeing how we have been working on the problem for decades and it has only become slightly better.  At this rate, racism will be solved by 2487.

Hate and Idiocracy

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I guess it is true, our country is going to shit.  The rest of the world may be in the same boat, but I know we are going to shit.  You can blame whoever you want.  Right now everyone is blaming Trump.  There are those that blame Obama.  I like to blame ourselves.  What?!  It can’t be our fault!  It is because of those in power!  Well, who put them there?  Even beyond government, it is still our fault that our country is laughed at and not admired.

Let us take a look at why we are doomed.

This past weekend, there was a rally held in Charlottesville.  Hey, a rally, nothing wrong with that.  Well it was a rally for white supremacy.  Of course, this did not go over well.  It shouldn’t have either.  There is no reason as to why in 2017, there are people that think the white race is the superior race.  It should be obvious that no race is superior to another.

Luckily, only one person was killed at the rally.  You would of thought that more people would have been killed, but there were more injuries.

This has also led to the taking down of many statues across the country.  It seems that after all this time, we aren’t responsible enough to have confederate statues in this country.  I am in no way saying that what these people did is right or wrong, but it is a part of our history.  I find rap music offensive, but you don’t see me trying to take down any posters, billboards, or radio towers that promote that kind of music.

When you have white supremacy on one side and Black Lives Matter on the other, nobody will win.  They are both racist, hate groups and need to be dealt with as such.

Besides the hate, there is another reason why we shouldn’t be trusted as people.  We put celebrities on the forefront of everything.  Have you looked at what counts as news these days?

I tried to eat like Khloe for a week, here’s what happened?

What Kate Hudson actually eats in a day.

Chrissy Teigen hates when restaurants do this.

The last one is an actual headline and I believe I have seen the other two before.  People will actually click on these and ignore everything else.  People, celebrities should be making movies or television shows and not a role model for a good diet or what happens in normal life.  They aren’t normal.  They can afford the best doctors, best nutritionist, and best everything.  Most of us are lucky if we can order something that isn’t on the dollar menu.

Until we get our priorities straight and start taking care of what actually matters, we will never move forward.  If we continue to let celebrities guide us and being snowflakes when something upsets us, we will just keep moving backwards.

Unfortunately, I don’t see us improving as humans.  We are too concerned with the rich and famous or letting the littlest things offend us and crying about it.  We are just a toddler that wants to get its way every time.

These next few years may become our last if we keep this up.  Honestly, that would be fine with me.  Maybe we need a fresh start.

Shitty music

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Why does today’s music suck?  Not all of it is bad, but for the most part it is hard to listen to the radio these days.  I don’t think that I’m that old, but I guess I am too old to understand why some of the music today has become so popular.

One of the problems that I have is why do rappers/R&B artists have to be on all the top 40 hits?  For example, Sia had a hit song with “Cheap Thrills”.  Sia, on her own is a very talented artist.  I’m not a huge fan of her songs, but she can actually sing.  With “Cheap Thrills”, the label or somebody decided that they should have Sean Paul sputter some jibberish throughout the song and ruin it.  There is one radio station in my area that plays the version without Sean and it is so much better.  Why do the powers that be think that we want to hear these other artists spew garbage over a completely acceptable song?  I just want to hear the song the way it was meant to be heard and without Sean Paul, Pitbull, or somebody else screaming “Mr. Worldwide” throughout the song.

Another problem is that it seems to take 10+ people to write a hit song.  Why can’t the people that sing the songs, write the songs?  It is fine if they have a writing partner or if the entire band takes part in the process.  It should be a process that involves them.  Unfortunately, it isn’t like that on a lot of songs.  For example:

Shape of You – Ed Sheeran, Steve Mac, Johnny McDaid, Kandi Burruss, Tameka Cottle, and Kevin Briggs

That’s What I Like – Bruno Mars, Philip Lawrence, Christopher Brody Brown, James Fauntleroy, Johnathan Yip, Ray Romulus, Jeremy Reeves, and Ray McCullough II

I’m The One – Khaled Khaled, Jason Boyd, Justin Bieber, Quavious Marshall, Robert Brackins III, Chancelor Bennett, Dwayne Carter Jr., and Nicholas Balding

Stay – Linus Wiklund, Sarah Aarons, Anders Froen, Alessia Caracciolo, Anton Zaslavski, and Jonnali Parmenius

Those are just a few of the songs in the Hot 100 from Billboard.

Then you have a group like One Republic.  Their song, “Counting Stars” reached number 2 and was written by Ryan Tedder.  Ryan is also the lead singer of the group.  He, along with his band-mates have written most of their songs.  Ryan has also written hit songs for other artists, like Beyonce.  I am fine with somebody writing the song for somebody else, sometimes your words sound better coming from another singer.  Prince also wrote songs that went to other artists.  The problem lies where a hit song needs a large group to make it a hit song.  When you pay 10 people to write a song, it had better crack the top 10.

I don’t know if any of this is the actual reason as to why today’s music is garbage, but I think it is a good place to start.  Even when a song is in the top 10, in my opinion, it doesn’t mean it is good.  There just seems to be a huge gap in talent these days and I wish we could get rid of some of these artists for good.  The first to go would be Justin Bieber, Ariana Grande, DJ Khaled, and Lil Yachty.  There are plenty more, but if these would disappear it would be a great start.  What artist would you like to see disappear from the radio?

 

10th Anniversary

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Well, the day has finally arrived.  On the 16th, my wife and I will be celebrating 10 years of marriage.  I wish that I could say it has been easy but it has been hard work.  I think that is what makes it last though, hard work.  Anyone that says it is easy is lying.

Our story isn’t anything that romance novels are based on.  We met at work.  She was a clerk and I was an assistant manager.  I know, a manager shouldn’t date an employee.  Well, once we knew that this wasn’t just a fling, I asked for a transfer.  Luckily, there were two other stores in our town so this wasn’t hard.

There was some jealousy soon after.  I became friends with a girl at my new store and maybe I was too friendly.  Nothing ever happened between us and nothing was going to happen, but that still caused some problems.  Obviously, we worked through those issues.

I was then given the opportunity to transfer to a new store in another city.  We decided to move there together.  Things were pretty good until I got a promotion to run my own store.  It wasn’t the promotion that caused the issue, but other private matters.  I would go into detail but there are people who might read this that she doesn’t want knowing the details.  Once again, we were able to overcome the difficult time and move on.  Months later, we were married.

We had a rather small wedding, mostly because that is what we wanted.  We did the usual honeymoon in Cancun and all was good with the world.  The week after we get back, we found out she was pregnant.  Now, we were not really expecting this and completely caught off guard.  We were planning on having kids, but not so soon.

While pregnant, we moved again.  Our son was born and everything seemed good.  Financially, we would struggle off and on.  Even though I had a good paying job, she was unable to work due to the fact that we lived in a small town.  There were no opportunities for her that would cover both the cost of childcare and still have money left over.  It was in our best interest for her to stay home.

I battled depression and finally decided it was time for a change in careers.  This of course meant we had to move again.  This was fine with her.  We would be closer to family and she would be able to get a job.  Things seemed to be going pretty good, until after about a year or so I had a bit of a nervous breakdown and quit my job.

Months went by and I still couldn’t land a new job.  We were in the process of moving (again) when on the day before we were to go she hands me a letter.  She tells me that this move will provide an opportunity for us to re-evaluate or relationship.  She wants to separate and see what happens.  I am heart-broken.  I knew things had been weird between us, but I didn’t know that it had become that bad.  I moved in with my parents and finally found a new job.

This new job sucked ass.  I’m pretty sure my boss never liked me, which makes me wonder why she even hired me.  The job didn’t last long and she soon told me to turn in my two weeks notice.  So there I was, still trying to work on my marriage and out of a job, again.

Even though I was out of a job, I still continued to get my wife back.  We got together quite often and things were looking good.  I finally got a new job but it was going to require a lot of travel.  It was a job though and it was something I would be good at.

I would be gone for 2 to 3 weeks at a time, but we would talk every night or Skype.  Even though I was gone, we were doing good.  After about 2 years, I found a new job that would bring me back home and make a bit more money.  We bought a house and things were really good.

Of course, being this has to do with me, the good stuff doesn’t last long.  That same year on the day after Thanksgiving, my father dies.  My wife calls me at work to tell me to rush to my parent’s house.  I got there too late.  My wife met me at the front door, crying and shaking her head no.  It was one of the worst days of my life.  She was there for support throughout the entire ordeal.

A few months later, I was given an opportunity for a new job doing something that I really enjoy.  I took that job and am still there today.  We still have the occasional fight, but nothing too serious.  We are both looking forward to celebrating our 10th year together.

Financially, we are nowhere near where I would like to be.  Every month, it gets a bit scary to look at the bank account.  Despite this, I am still going to take her away for the weekend.  She doesn’t know that we are going anywhere and won’t know until the morning of the 16th.  It won’t be anything too fancy, but at least it is something.  She deserves to have a relaxing time and I hope that she enjoys it.  Maybe in a few years, I will be able to take her on a second honeymoon.

In Love With Being Fat

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Have you ever been skimming through articles and see one that makes you go, “What the fuck!?”  Of course you have.  It’s 2017 and everything is on the internet.  I don’t get too surprised by things but today I was definitely saying, “What the fuck!?”

There is a lady in Fort Worth, Texas that at one time wanted to be the fattest one in the world.  That’s right, the fattest and not with a p-h.  Now, I am all for body positivity.  Not everyone can look like Kate Beckinsale and that is okay.  Even those that seem to have the perfect body find flaws in their looks.  I do have an issue with someone wanting to be 500+ pounds and unhealthy.

To consumer over 10,000 calories a day and get up to 700 pounds is just stupid.  You are asking to die before you are 30 (this lady happens to be 28).  If you are bedbound due to obesity, then that is a problem.  The amount of pressure and stress that you are putting on your body is immense.  There have been numerous studies done on the effects of obesity on the human body and clearly this girl has not read any of them.

To further her stupidity, she has already suffered two miscarriages and is pregnant again.  She should not be getting pregnant.  I can’t believe there is someone willing to have sex with her.  Obviously, she has some sort of mental disorder.  I mean, who in their right mind would want to weigh 700 pounds?  She can’t take care of herself so why should a baby have to suffer?

My only hope is that she gets some serious help and that she can repair some of the damage to her body.  She will probably have health problems for the rest of her probably short life.  The man that has helped her get this way should also seek help.  If she were to die, he should be charged with assisted suicide or homicide.  He should share the blame for what she has done to herself.

If a baby is born, it should go to a loving family that will care for it and teach it to make good choices.  Otherwise, it could turn into a 300 lb. 2-year old.  This whole story should make you sick.

School Dress Codes

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Who remembers high school?  For some of us, it was the best times of our life.  For others, it was okay.  For the rest, it was horrible.  It has been 20 years since I was in high school and I’m sure some things have changed while others have stayed the same.  The nerds still get picked on, the athletes are popular, and everyone thinks that life will treat them fairly.

One thing that I know hasn’t changed is that all schools still have a dress code.  I remember seeing girls get in trouble over the length of their shorts and they were nowhere near as short as they are now.  The one thing that I don’t remember is if people got as bent out of shape about is as they do now.

As I was killing time during my afternoon break, I came across an article that was talking about how “distracting” female students are over what they wear.  Evidently, there was a note from some teenage boys that said the girls don’t value the male education by dressing like a ho.  I will have to call bullshit on that one.  I know that I’m old, but that seriously does sound like bullshit.  When I was 16, it didn’t matter what the girl was wearing; if she was cute then she was cute.  Sure it was nice when the weather warmed up and they started to wear those Umbro shorts (who remembers those?), but even if they were wearing a sweater and loose sweatpants, I was still attracted to them.

No matter what they were wearing, I never once thought that they didn’t value my education.  And believe me; they were not dressing that way to get my attention.  I wish they had been, but sadly, I doubt any of them even remember me.  That is enough of my sadness.

Whoever these boys are, they need to be slapped upside the head with an encyclopedia.  Side note:  before Google we had to look up stuff in books in this building called a library.  Sometimes we had to talk to someone in order to get information.  End side note.

Anyways, I’m sure these boys are not being forced to look at these girls.  With a little something called will-power or by not getting so easily distracted, these kids won’t even notice what the girls are wearing.

Blaming the girls is not the answer.  Blaming the boys may not be, but since they are the ones being idiots it is more fun.  When did kids become such sensitive, little snowflakes that they can’t concentrate when there is a little bit of skin showing?  Is this what happens when everybody gets a participation trophy?

The boys need to make the first move towards adulthood and treat the girls with a little respect.  Unless that girl is fully nude in your English class, what’s the problem?

Human Emotions

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Human emotions, why do they have to be so complicated?  Is it because we don’t want others to know how we truly feel?  Are we that afraid of what others think?  Or, is it just the fear of being vulnerable?  As a guy, I can say yes to all of these questions.  For women, I have no idea what the issue is.  There are days that you know exactly how they feel and then there are those days that you just want to fast-forward through.

I know what you are thinking, “It’s just another guy down playing the emotions of women.”  Actually, no I’m not.  Guys are just as bad as women, if not worse.  I am just simply saying that since I am not a woman, I cannot speak for their reason but I can question them.

For instance, let us just say that there is a married woman and a single man.  This woman falls for the single man and makes plans to be with him after she is able to get a divorce.  Now, the divorce was going to happen with or without the single man so you can’t really blame him.  The time has now come for them to be together and the woman has decided she might not want a relationship.  She wants time to think over things.  How much time?  She doesn’t know.

You can understand how this could frustrate the man.  His emotions are now in a tail-spin.

Now, let us take a look from another side on this scenario.  The woman has just gotten out of a failed marriage.  The man who she thought she would love for the rest of her love turned out to be the wrong guy.  As the divorce is finalized, she starts thinking about her mistake and that she doesn’t want to do that again.  Why would she rush into another relationship?  And yes, she has a child and so does the other man.  Hopefully she has taken that into consideration.  Her child should now be the most important thing to her and she needs to do everything in her power to raise him/her correctly.

Kids can affect our emotions in the strangest ways.  I was once an emotionless bastard (and can still be one) but after having a child, I’ve changed.  So maybe after spending some time alone with just her and her child, she decided to take some time for herself.  That time could be a month to years.  In this time, she needs to do what is right for her family.  Jumping into another relationship that may or may not work probably scares her.

Whatever emotions may be running through her head, hopefully they will lead her to make the right decision for both her and her child.  The other man will either wait it out or move on.  If he moves on, then maybe that should be a sign that this girl isn’t the “one”.

Emotions are one of those pesky things about being human.  Some people are super-emotional and some are almost non-existent on the emotional spectrum.  For those of us that are in-between, we have to fight over which emotion we will carry for the day.  Once we get that figured out, it can be a fight to either keep that emotion or change it.  As people get involved, our emotional state changes and depending on the person, that can be good or bad or both.  The trick is to not let people always control your emotions.  Take a moment.  Take a deep breath.  Count to 10.  Whatever it takes, just keep your emotions in check so that others can’t use them against you and you don’t end up throat-punching the person next to you.